What would you tell someone about to become a mother?

Love yourself. Love your children. If you choose to marry, make sure you know that it will work out. Make sure that the person you are getting involved with doesn't suddenly pull the rug out from under your feet.

Spend time with your kids. Let them know you care. Listen to them. Pay attention to them when they talk. Listen to their troubles and show empathy. Be honest with them. Let them know the consequences in life. Let them know that even when you aren't there that you are still thinking about them. I tell my children several times throughout the day that I love them when they are with me and even when I talk to them on the phone. I ask them how their week went, how their day went, what they do in school, what their activites are, who their friends are. I ask them what their interests are, what they want to be when they grow up. If they plan on going to college. I cook with them. I clean with them. I laugh with them. I cry with them. I smile with them. I grow with them.